This is my friend Beryl. She is a mom, an artist with a camera, a teacher, babyloss mama.
We have a lot in common.
We are dreamers, planners and are passionate about finding healing through creativity. She is really quiet extraordinary with her visionary projects and e-courses that teach women to stretch themselves through a camera lens. Seriously, there is nothing more fun then taking a class with her. She is just THAT good!
Today, she shares her daughter’s story. Please send her some love and visit her link below.
My husband and I used to joke behind closed doors before we had children that we were destined to have a baby with medical problems. Between him and I we are an array of autoimmune conditions – me with childhood arthritis, celiacs disease, osteoporosis and him with a rare non life threatening skin lymphoma. None of these are genetic conditions and after consulting all of our doctors we were given a green light and told that our likelihood of having a healthy baby and pregnancy was the same as anyone other healthy human beings out there. So we didn’t give our jokes another thought. We never seriously considered what those jokes would become and how devastating our first pregnancy would actually be for our family.
What is it they say about karma…? Yeah, we lived it.
Our Bella Rose was a picture perfect pregnancy up until her 20 week sonogram where in an instant it was all taken away. Our doctor looked us in the eye, cold and heartless, and listed off the insurmountable medical conditions one by one that our Bella was facing. The phrase ‘incompatible with life’ was thrown around so nonchalantly you’d think baby loss was no big deal. We both sat emotionless and shocked and then we caught each other’s gaze and there was that knowing glance of ” When we made those jokes, we weren’t actually serious”.
Bella was stillborn a week after that life altering day on September 11, 2009. We were discharged from the hospital only 5 hours after her birth – an empty womb, empty hands, & empty heart. The emptiness consumed me for a very long time and I longed to fill it anyway I could. We declined photos at the hospital and I felt the intense need to make other memories of our daughter instead. So I sought out art in any shape and form. I mastered the art of photography, I purchased a hand-stamped metal necklace customized designed with our Bella’s name and birth date, and then I came across Beyond Words Designs and had a beautiful hand painted canvas made to hang in our home.
That canvas is by far my most prized memorial piece. It’s a conversation starter, it gets people to say Bella’s name, and allows her to be remembered. It’s beautiful and it coordinates seamlessly into the decor of our home. It’s incredible what that one piece of art has done to transform our living space. It has allowed Bella to in some way remain a part of us and our day to day life.
You can find more about Beryl when you visit Beryl Young Photography.
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